According to Google:
A father is the male parent of a child. Besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children, the father may have a parental legal and social relationship with the child that carries with it certain rights and obligations, although this varies between jurisdictions.
But according to what I have learned and observed, a Father may be defined with 3 P’s. What are those? I’ll explain it later.
Our generation is now called a FATHERLESS GENERATION, because of only few of us has a father. With this generation, with pre-marital sex issues, boy who can’t be a man for what he had done, a boy who can’t stand being a father in an early stage, these are the reasons why many of us are fatherless. A man can just go away, but a mother can’t. We all lived in our mother’s womb for 9 months. For 9 months, we felt how we are loved by her, she can’t just take us away in her body. But for a father, yes, he can.
Besides of being a biological father, I believe that being a father is not just by blood, but by heart and the responsibilities he accepts for his child.
As I said earlier, here are the 3 P’s.
As the Father is the head of the family, he himself should also be the Pastoral Head of the Family. He should be the one initiating the kids to grow up with the Lord. And not just that, not just by words, but also with actions. There are some fathers who wants to go to church with the family but does not the gospels to their family. As a father, he should be the one nourishing the family, proving and teaching the family of what is wrong and right.
As the Father, he should always prioritize the safety of your family. There will always be the questions, “Are you home, son/daughter?”; “Where are you, son/daughter?”, because being a man means protecting your love ones, assuring that they are safe and not just physically but also emotionally. I admire those father who just secure their family if they are okay with every aspects of their lives.
Here comes the very issue of I think most of the family has. As a father, he should be the one providing all of the needs of his family. He should assure that his family is in the right state. Provide foods for the health, educational needs of the children and of course the shelter. He should be a great provider.
Those 3P’s are the ideal identity of a Father. But wait, if your father does not qualify those 3 P’s, it does not mean that he is not a good father. There are some circumstances as well in life that a father could not come up with those characteristics.
I am not telling this to put all the fathers down for those who can’t be the Pastoral head, Protector and Provider.
My father does not reach those qualification as well. Not because he does not wanted to, but because just as I said earlier there some circumstance in life that are unexpected. My father used to be the Pastoral Head of the family, but then our faith was tested. My father used to be the protector, but then our bond as a family was tested that leads to having individual lives. My father used to be our provider, but then he had an heart attack when I was in elementary and stopped to work.
But here is my main point. For those who can’t feel their fathers, who never had the chance to meet their fathers, who thinks their father is useless, this is the only thing I can say:
“Look at the Father above, He is our real father.”
He is our main Pastoral Head.
4 Fathers,do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
He is Protector.
Whoever goes to the Lord for safety,
whoever remains under the protection of the Almighty,
2 can say to him,
“You are my defender and protector.
You are my God; in you I trust.”
He is Provider.
19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.
Do you understand that we will never be a Fatherless Generation?
That up there, someone is hearing our cry, someone is comforting us, someone is concern with us, someone is protecting us, someone is providing our needs, and someone is loving us eternally.